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A Trisomy 18 Journey

Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain. -- Vivian Greene

Showing posts with label Trisomy Friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Trisomy Friends. Show all posts

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

MCM 2013: Team Julia






Marc and our friend, Josh, completed this year's Marine Corp Marathon! They ran in Julia's memory as part of Team Trisomy 18. It was a beautiful day--perfect for running the race (I'm told) and perfect for watching the race. The kids and I made signs and took the metro downtown to mile 18 to see Marc and Josh. Seeing the constant stream of runners along the Potomac River or running through the National Mall was really amazing. Thanks to modern technology, we were able to track Marc and know when he would be coming our way. We were all so excited to see them and to see that things were going so well! We are very proud of Marc (and Josh) for running for Julia! And we are thankful to so many who contributed to Team Trisomy 18! Team Julia raised $3,415 (well beyond our $2000 goal!), and the combined 11 members of Team Trisomy 18 raised over $20,000!

























Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Day 15: Wave of Light


October 15 in Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. In honor of this day, parents around the world are participating in a Wave of Light to remember our little ones gone too soon. We light a candle for our own precious daughter -- for Julia. We light a candle for loved ones who have experienced this loss. We light a candle for the many little angels that we do not know. We remember. 

This post is part of Carly Marie's Capture Your Grief Photography Challenge in honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. To learn more please visit http://carlymarieprojectheal.com

Friday, March 29, 2013

Meet Guiliana




Today I would like to introduce you to Guiliana - or G, as she is affectionately called. G is two and a half and has mosaic trisomy 18. She is one brave, tough, strong little girl! She has overcome so much already -- heart surgery, gastrointestinal difficulties and surgeries, and bouts with RSV and pneumonia -- enough to challenge any kid! But she's still smiling! She eats orally (but has a back up g-tube just in case it's needed), is potty trained, is mobile, and is always stylish.  G's mom is a vital member of our trisomy community. She is full of great advice and offers support and encouragement to all. She is G's biggest cheerleader and advocate.  Jill and G -- we are so glad to know you! To catch up more with G, visit her blog at "Giuliana's Gift of Life."



Sunday, March 24, 2013

Words

A fellow trisomy mom compiled photos of our kids with trisomy along with one word each of us would use to describe our little one.  Here is the one that includes Julia.


She is my gift.




Saturday, March 16, 2013

Meet Lilly






Today I would like you to meet another Lilly. This Lilly, aka Little Firecracker, was born on July 4 -- just 5 months before Julia. Her blog, Pray for Lilly, was one of the first I found after Julia was born. Lilly was diagnosed prenatally with full trisomy 18. Although her parents were told they would not have much time together, Lilly lived for 17 months! Lilly's family had the opportunity to celebrate over 500 days together. They celebrated all of Lilly's milestones. They celebrated holidays and birthdays. They took lots of pictures. They sought the best care for Lilly and traveled out of state to get the heart surgeries Lilly needed. Lilly was a huge inspiration to me during Julia's life. Seeing her smiling face in so many photos gave me much comfort and hope. Like Julia, Lilly brought her family much joy!
Lilly went to heaven the night before Julia. Her mother and I like to imagine them there together-- our little two year olds running free and happy. Lilly's mom continues to blog about Lilly and their family. Their family continues to be a great encouragement to us in our journey. Their oldest daughter writes to Sydney and sends her sweet Julia remembrances. We hope to all meet in person someday! To learn more about Lilly's sweet life, please visit Pray for Lilly.





Friday, March 15, 2013

Meet Lily



Today I would like to introduce you to Lily! Lily has full trisomy 18 and is almost four years old! I had the wonderful opportunity to meet Lily and her family when Julia was 10 months old. (To read about that fun meeting click here.) Lily is a determined little girl! She has been determined to be mobile and is now working on crawling! She can do many things she was never "supposed" to do according to her doctors. She is surrounded at home by an older brother and two little sisters, so she has plenty of motivation to get moving! I always enjoy keeping up with how Lily is doing! To see more cute Lily photos and videos, visit Lily's blog at "I See Love."


Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Annie's Story

Meet Annie. Annie was diagnosed with full trisomy 13. She was (and is!) so very loved. Her parents fought for her care and advocated for her. Her life was cut short when doctors decided they --and not her parents-- knew what was best for Annie when she was brought to the ER at the age of 80 days in respiratory distress. Since then, Annie's mother, Barb, has been the trisomy community's greatest advocate. She has partnered with physicians and ethicists and parents to challenge and change the assumptions in medical care associated with children with trisomy 13 and 18. She is doing just that. One study at a time. One journal at a time. One doctor at a time, if that's what it takes.
Here is a video of Annie's story. Please watch.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UqFkxT9BUJA&sns=em

Sunday, March 10, 2013

Meet Grace


Hi, everyone. Today I invite you to meet Grace. Grace is her parents' first born child. Grace was diagnosed with trisomy 18 during the 21st week of pregnancy. Having a prenatal diagnosis sharply focuses the importance of the here and now. The time during pregnancy becomes even more precious. It may be the only physical time parents have with their little one. It is sacred time. Grace's parents cherished their pregnancy days. Her mom blogged. Her dad got a tattoo. They made memories like dressing Grace up for Halloween by painting her mom's cute pregnant belly. They took lots of maternity photos. They made sure to have 3D ultrasound pictures. They shared Grace and her story with friends and family. They chose her beautiful name, Grace Evelyn. Precious Grace was born still at 30 weeks. She was and is cherished. Beloved. Held. Missed. Her time on earth was much shorter than her family wanted, but her impact, her legacy, will be forever felt by all who are touched by her story. Her mom continues to blog about their journey. Please visit them and be touched by Grace's story at The Smith Family blog.




Monday, March 4, 2013

Meet Lachlan

Today I am pleased to introduce you to 2 and a half year old Lachlan! Lachlan has the mosaic form of Trisomy 18. This means that some of his cells have three copies of the 18th chromosome and some have two. Mosaic trisomy 18 occurs in less than 5% of t18 cases.
Lachlan lives with his family in Australia. He is a much loved little guy! He has a heart condition but is doing great without surgery. He received his g-tube for feedings a few months ago and has adjusted well to his new tube and his new blenderized diet. To read more about Lachlan and see his adorable photos, please visit his blog "Lachlan's Australian Trisomy 18 Journey."



Meet Aaron



As Trisomy Awareness Month continues, I would like to introduce you to some precious children with trisomy. First, here is Aaron. Aaron has full trisomy 18 and is now 32 months old! Aaron is typical in many ways-- he is a happy, smiley two year old. He is a curious boy and likes to try new things. He loves his eight older brothers and sisters, and they adore him. He keeps his mommy on her toes! Aaron also has challenges brought by his extra 18th chromosome. He has a heart condition but it has not required surgery. In his first months of life he had trouble breathing and was found to have a floppy airway, or tracheomalacia. For that a tracheostomy was performed and he was placed on a ventilator to provide the support he needs to breathe. He also is fed through a tube like many children with trisomy 18. These procedures have allowed Aaron to grow very well!  He is thriving and bringing joy to everyone around him. To read more about Aaron, please visit his blog which is perfectly named "Compatible with Joy!"


Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Feb 12


One year ago today I met a beautiful little girl named Isabella. It was her two month birthday, and it had been nearly two months since we lost Julia. Isabella, like Julia, had trisomy 18. They looked very alike. They brought with them similar joys and similar struggles. Seeing Isabella made my heart full, and I loved her immediately. She was so expressive, so spirited, and so lovely. I also met Isabella's amazing parents, Patricia and Randy. Since that day, we have shared happy days and sad days, the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. Our little beautiful girls now play together, happy and whole, in a place where all is good. This is a hard and often lonely road that we walk. I am very thankful that if we must walk this road, we can at least do it together.





Wednesday, February 6, 2013

January Tree




February is already here, but I wanted to post pictures of Julia's angel tree for the month of January. Some of the ornaments were Christmas ornaments and some were after Christmas ornaments and some were special gifts. I really love how this tree came together!

This "noodle" angel ornament was made by our neighbor G when Julia was born. Her first ornament! It will always be special. Thank you, G!


This angel ornament was made by my friend and fellow trisomy mom, C. She decorated a Christmas tree with lots of these angel ornaments dedicated to our trisomy angels. Thanks so much, C!


This sweet ornament is also from a fellow trisomy mom (Little Firecracker) and friend, L. It has a feather inside that represents a feather from an angel's wing. Love it! Thank you, L!


And here is another lovely angel feather ornament I received from trisomy mom and friend, S. It includes Julia's name inside and also sweet charms and sweet words. Thank you very much, S!




Monday, October 15, 2012

Day 14: Community

 Day 14: Community

The Trisomy 18/13 community has been an unexpected blessing in this journey. I was so encouraged to find other families living with a child with trisomy 18 or 13 when Julia was with us. I finally felt like we were not alone in what we were experiencing. I am thankful to have made friends through this community, some very dear to me. I consider these friends special gifts from Julia.


October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. This national observance month was established in 1988 by President Reagan.  This post is part of Carly Marie's "Capture Your Grief" 31 day photography project for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month.

Monday, August 13, 2012

Trisomy Family





While in Alabama, we were so lucky to get to meet two superstar girls who just happen to have Trisomy 18. Emaleerose (pictured with Sydney in the top photos) celebrated her FIFTH birthday this week and Miss Chloe (pictured with Sydney and Isaac) celebrated her THIRD birthday this week!!!!!!!! I have wanted to meet these girls since I first heard about them.  Both live within a half hour of the town where I grew up in Alabama.  I contacted their moms months ago to let them know I would be visiting and wanted so much to meet them.  Seeing these girls was so inspiring to me. It helped me think of Julia and what she would be like, and it was heartwarming. Both girls were very sweet and smiley and obviously so very loved. They each have adoring siblings and I met some of them, too. I had an instant connection with moms Beth and Sara. We talked and visited like we were old friends.  I know that is because we are more than that. We are members of a small community, bonded by our love for these special children. 
Sydney and Isaac were very curious to meet these sweet girls, too, and they were just drawn to them. I know they felt a special connection, too, knowing that these girls are so like Julia. It was a special privilege for all of us. Happy birthday, Emaleerose and Chloe! You are both amazing!

Friday, July 27, 2012

Isabella









Our sweet friend, Isabella, recently left this earth for heaven. She was 7.5 months old and such a fighter! She, like Julia, had trisomy 18 and an associated heart condition. She had open heart surgery in April but the surgeons were unable to repair everything. Her little heart just could not keep up with her strong spirit.

Isabella came into our lives nearly two months after we lost Julia. Meeting her and her family and getting to know them was like a healing ointment on my wound of grief. I felt as though I was still fighting for Julia by helping Isabella and her family in any way possible. I was also captivated with her as soon as I met her. She was a feisty little girl who knew what she wanted and what she did not want. She was and is inspiring and strong and so well loved. Thank you to her parents, Patricia and Randy, for sharing Isa with me and my family. We love her and are grateful to know her. She is with our Julia now...

Monday, July 23, 2012

New Trisomy 13/18 Article







A new article about families of children with Trisomy 13 and 18 was published today in the medical journal Pediatrics. A huge thank you to Trisomy advocate and fellow Trisomy mom, Barb Farlow, for her years of hard work in bringing together Trisomy families and some compassionate members of the medical community to produce this research.
The news release from the University of Montreal: http://www.nouvelles.umontreal.ca/udem-news/news/20120723-children-with-trisomy-13-and-18-and-their-families-are-happy.html
Journal Abstract: http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2012/07/18/peds.2012-0151.abstract
A blog post written by a well-known neonatologist regarding this article: http://neonatalresearch.org/2012/07/23/our-children-are-not-a-diagnosis-the-family-experience-of-trisomy-13-and-18/#comments

Wednesday, July 4, 2012

July 4th




Remembering our Julia from last July -- she was especially smiley on this day at the lake! I love this photo of her in her red, white, and blue swimsuit! We miss our girl so much -- sending you much love and hugs, Julia!

Today we are also remembering sweet Lilly, aka "Little Firecracker" on her birthday. She and Julia arrived in heaven only hours apart. Sending hugs to Lilly and to Lilly's family on this special day.

Saturday, June 30, 2012

Sweet Balloons





In the Trisomy 18/13 community, many families celebrate birthdays/special events with a balloon release. Two sweet families recently released balloons and chose to honor Julia and all of the other Trisomy angels with a balloon to heaven. The first was the family of Jordan as they remembered her on her third birthday. The second was the family of Aaron who just celebrated his 2nd birthday this week. Thank you, Cindy and Rebekah, for remembering our precious girl. Thank you also to Caleb's mom, Jeanette, for walking in memory of our angels in a Mother's Day 5K run/walk. She had a shirt made with names of our angels on the back for this walk. All of these precious lives will not be forgotten.
















Sunday, April 1, 2012

T18 Awareness Videos





These videos were compiled by  fellow Trisomy 18 Moms in honor of Trisomy Awareness Month. Thank you, Jill and Kelly, for putting together such beautiful tributes! The videos show fragility, resilience, perseverance, life, hope, and most of all love.
Julia's photos appear at the 2:16 mark in the first video (above) and our family appears at the 1:20 mark in the second video (below).




Wednesday, March 7, 2012

The Implications of Her Smile

In last week's Time magazine, Joe Klein wrote an interesting piece about Rick Santorum entitled "Rick Santorum's Inconvenient Truths." I usually enjoy articles written by Joe Klein and appreciate his perspective on a variety of political topics. He is not a conservative columnist and usually supports more moderate or liberal candidates. In this article, though, Mr. Klein says there is "something admirable about Santorum's near Tourettic insistence on bringing up issues no one wants to talk about." One of the issues that Mr. Klein discusses is Mr. Santorum's position on prenatal testing and his opinion that this leads to more abortions. Rick Santorum's daughter, Bella, who is three years old and has trisomy 18, has become the face of his stance on prenatal testing and abortion. According to Santorum (and the experience of my fellow trisomy parents), nearly 100% of babies prenatally diagnosed with trisomy 18 are encouraged to be aborted.

Prenatal testing is an important issue and carries more consequences than we are sometimes aware.  I do not personally oppose prenatal testing, but rather the lack of information and support given to women and families who receive a prenatal diagnosis. Parents who are already enduring the grief of having a child with this diagnosis are then faced with having to battle the medical community because of having a prenatal diagnosis.  After receiving a prenatal diagnosis as difficult and devastating as trisomy 18 and deciding to continue the pregnancy, many parents are denied medical interventions such as an echocardiogram to evaluate the baby's heart, a c-section to decrease stress on the baby, and resuscitation at birth since the child statistically is not expected to survive for very long.   Because we did not have a prenatal diagnosis of trisomy 18 with Julia, I was given a c-section (best for her compromised heart) and she was given respiratory support (she was on bi-pap for about 6 hours until she could breathe on her own). She was evaluated and placed in the NICU for observation.  Her heart and kidneys were evaluated. I do not know what our experience would have been like at our particular hospital if we had known before birth. However, I know many parents who have had to take on hospitals and fight for support. Some parents with a prenatal diagnosis have been able to meet ahead of time with NICU staff to find out their approach to babies with trisomy 18 and if they met resistance they had time to find another hospital. So, yes, prenatal testing is a big deal, or rather the knowledge than comes along with prenatal testing is a big -- a very big -- deal.

Although I am not a supporter of Rick Santorum for president, I am thankful for the debates being raised on behalf of his daughter Bella and all children with trisomy 18. And as Mr. Klein so eloquently states...

"I am haunted by the smiling photos I’ve seen of Isabella with her father and mother, brothers and sisters. No doubt she struggles through many of her days–she nearly died a few weeks ago–but she has also been granted three years of unconditional love and the ability to smile and bring joy. Her tenuous survival has given her family a deeper sense of how precious even the frailest of lives are.

All right, I can hear you saying, the Santorum family’s course may be admirable, but shouldn’t we have the right to make our own choices? Yes, I suppose. But I also worry that we’ve become too averse to personal inconvenience as a society–that we’re less rigorous parents than we should be, that we’ve farmed out our responsibilities, especially for the disabled, to the state–and I’m grateful to Santorum for forcing on me the discomfort of having to think about the moral implications of his daughter’s smile."